Friday Forum: Revisiting Love Requires Restraint
Over the course of the week, I have been thinking about the idea that love requires restraint while simultaneously running myself into the ground. It is very easy to place ourselves in situations that we would never advocate for other persons. When set against the idea of love requiring restraint, our tendency to overextend ourselves speaks to the restraining quality of loving ourselves.
Many people advocate towards self-love. Loving one’s self is a tricky task as the idea lends itself to prideful self-absorption that renders other persons as servants. However, loving one’s self seems to take on a different sort of character when paired with the idea that love requires restraint.
For instance, over-filling my schedule to the point of consistent sleep imbalances does not feature the restraint required to care for myself. Pursuing all options does not feature restraint. “No” enables us to practice restraint, but very rarely do we practice this word. We also need to consider our priorities and simultaneously prioritize keeping our priorities in their proper order. It can be difficult to exercise appropriate restraint when everything comes crashing down at once.